Tragic News An unending series of tragedies seem to have become America’s new normal.
This week, 19 schoolchildren and 2 adults were killed in Uvalde, Texas. This was just days after a shooter in Buffalo, New York, killed 10 people who were mostly Black. Around the same time, churchgoers tackled a gunman in California, who killed one and injured five.
We could go on.
Now it seems unusual to tune into the news and not hear about another mass shooting or other unprovoked act of violence. There have been more than 200 mass shootings in 2022 alone.
The American Public Health Association says gun violence in the US is a public health crisis. It is a leading cause of premature death in the country, responsible for more than 38,000 deaths annually. As of May 24, at least 17,320 people have died from gun violence this year. According to data from the Gun Violence Archive.
Yet we’re all expected to keep working Tragic News.
Keep taking our kids to school. Keep meeting for happy hour drinks like more innocent people kill. Just keep on keeping on, right?
But those emotions you feel, they’re normal. The numbness that envelopes your entire mind and body, that’s normal too. A vast range of feelings — sadness, frustration, anger, anxiety, fear — can overwhelm you in moments of grief following mass shootings, natural disasters, and other tragedies.
To be clear, we’re talking about people who are mostly witnessing these events in the news cycle, rather than experiencing firsthand in their hometown, school, or even in their family — although few in the US are completely untouched by random acts of violence.
It’s important to recognize, understand, and get in touch with those emotions Tragic News.
“The truth is, if we don’t, they’re still going to be there. It’s just a matter of how it’s going to come out — and it will come out,” said Stephanie Marcello, chief psychologist at Rutgers University Behavioral Health Care, who specializes in treating people who’ve experienced trauma.
“It makes sense that you’re having these different types of feelings and thoughts and behaviors. Let’s talk about them,” she said. “Let’s become aware of how we may be responding, and then we can make a decision if that response is healthy for us or not.”
There is no right or wrong way to feel after tragedy strikes Tragic News
People experience trauma and express their stress in many different ways, but some common reactions and emotions emerge every time another tragedy strikes. Desensitization (or numbness), anger, sadness, fear, shame, and guilt.
Some people may appear to shut down in the face of tragedy; their reactions, or lack thereof, might come off as insensitive. But this response often protects people from burning out or breaking down. It’s also one of the most common reactions among people who’ve been through trauma, Marcello said, especially sustained trauma, like back-to-back mass shootings.
Tragedy after tragedy may make some people unable or unwilling to process their emotions, which causes them to enter something like a state of shock. “So there’s danger in that in a lot of ways because those feelings are still there,” she said. “You’re just in such an avoidance mode that you can’t experience them.”
While it’s OK and normal to use this coping mechanism, at least initially, it’s important to ensure your behaviors aren’t harming your mental health or that of others around you, she said.
“How we respond when something like this happens, even though it’s very obvious to others, may not be very obvious to us,” Marcello said.
Anger Tragic News
It’s incredibly easy to resort to anger and unload those intense emotions on others when tragedies occur.
“Anger is one of those feelings that people tend to like having on some level. It tends to give us a false sense of control and superiority, like we’re on some level entitled to our anger,” Marcello said. “It’s a tough one because some people really don’t like to give it up.”
Anger is a normal and healthy human emotion — but it can get out of control, so it’s critical that in moments of uncertainty, chaos, and grief, you check in with yourself and others “to figure out what else is going on because there’s definitely more to that story,” she said.
This important work can do seeing a therapist, she say, and by taking care of yourself, whether that’s spiritually, physically, or emotionally.
“It’s like opening a can of soda. You keep bottling things up, eventually it’s going to pop and explode,” she said. “It’s going to have to come out in some way.”
Sadness, fear, shame, and guilt
Every time you make it safely to the other side of a tragedy (i.e., you survive), it can be distressing to deal with the reality of “why not me?” It’s a common reaction called survivor’s guilt. and it’s characterized by strong, persistent feelings of personal responsibility, sadness, and guilt.
The fact that children are more frequently becoming Tragic News
victims of violence adds a whole other layer of frustration and fear, Marcello said. Some parents may even feel guilty for dropping their kids off at school. Where, in the US, safety no longer guarantee.